What I Wish I Knew Before I Started Teaching

I'm still a newish teacher (going into my fourth year overall, third in the same district). But I've learned a lot since I started, some of which will never be in a traditional teacher training program. Here's my big takeaways:

No curriculum is perfect. Do what the kids need, not what the book or computer screen says.
My first district used a very overpriced, very scripted curriculum. Frankly, it wasn't very good. And teaching from a script wasn't fun. But I did it, because I didn't know any better and because I was criticized early on for deviating. Students, and groups of students, are all different. It's more important to teach what they need than what any piece of paper or screen states they "should" learn. Don't do rhythms with kids who don't keep a steady beat yet. It won't work. Read the room, have an actual human to human conversation with students, and teach what they need. Sometimes, a dance party is more important than the planned lesson. Or a folk dance lesson becomes a lesson on respect. That's okay. Adapting is important. Obviously, teach content, not fluff, but teach the students in front of you. They'll get where they need to be, even if it takes a little more time.

Learn from everyone.
Yes, it's easy to get caught in a teacher echo chamber. It feels better to only talk to brand-new teachers who are just as scared and worn down and clueless as you might feel. But those who have been there before can help you grow. Most teachers aren't scary people if you talk to them. That being said, avoid toxicity like the plague because it spreads. Ain't nobody got time for Negative Nancys. I've learned classroom management tricks from lunch monitors, movement strategies from PE teachers, organizing strategies from classroom teachers, and many more. Don't just stay in your lane, learn and borrow from those around you.

Understand you'll be misunderstood
Especially as a music teacher, there will be misunderstandings. Schedules will get mixed up. Observers will focus on something that has nothing to do with music or teaching. You'll be asked to teach kids you only see on Tuesday a song by Monday... when it's Friday. Things will work out. Communicate clearly, firmly, but respectfully. There's no sense in yelling about things when simply educating adults will work better. Explain that you cannot possibly teach kindergarten and fifth grade back-to-back without passing time because the room setup for fifth grade isn't safe for younger students, or why chorus with 100 kids on Friday afternoon might be a struggle. Explain what the curriculum indicates students should be learning, and why you taught it as you did. Let the teacher who asks for a song performance ready that it's too last minute and you'd be glad to offer support next time with more advance notice. Most people in schools really do have students' best interests at heart, even if it sometimes creates inconvenience. Explaining your reasoning while setting boundaries helps to maintain and build respectful relationships. It's okay to vent (to people outside the situation) about frustrations with this too! It is hard being misunderstood, or being seen as an entertainer.

Have fun
There's so much joy to be found in making music with students. Not all days will be fun, not all classes will be fun, but there are bright moments even in the exhausting, frustrating times. It's okay to laugh at a kid's joke that makes no sense, or freeze dance when you finish a lesson two minutes early. Don't be the teacher who doesn't smile until Christmas, it's not healthy for students or adults.

The middle is a good place to be
There are few things in education that require an extreme view. Though many topics are polarizing in education (and especially music education) circles, there's no reason to create a false binary where there isn't one. It's not pop music vs. classical music. Or Kodaly vs. Orff vs. Gordon. Use what works for you, no matter where it came from. Different teachers, schools, and students need different things. It's better to be yourself than to unthinkingly follow any method, philosophy, or idea.

It does get easier, except when it doesn't
Being a first year teacher is hard, exhausting, frustrating, and taxing in a way that no program can truly prepare you for. But that's not to say everything after is easy. There will always be things about teaching, or anything else, that are hard. But the hard things get easier, you develop new skills, and you'll develop a compass of what's normal or acceptable for you and what isn't. It's absolutely okay to change things or move to a new position if it's what will work for you. Some positions aren't right for some people. It's okay to leave. Ask for help on the things that are still hard.

No (lesson, teacher, district, school, fill-in-the-blank) is perfect
Even the teachers with the Pinterest perfect classrooms are human beings with flaws. Even that "dream position" has its downsides. Don't focus on finding the perfect lesson, poster, school, or boss. Absolutely find yourself a workable situation and a healthy work environment, but don't chase after perfection that doesn't exist. I love my school and district, but I know that it has flaws, as does every other district I'm familiar with. Find things to be grateful about in your current situation rather than always lusting after something better.

Be kind
This one is last, but also most important. Being kind to yourself, students, and co-workers will pay dividends in so many ways. There is no use in teachers bashing themselves, or blaming their students. Complaining about a colleague behind their back won't change anything. It is okay and perfectly normal to have tough teaching days. It doesn't mean you're a bad teacher. Kids had bad days too. It doesn't mean they're bad kids or are out to get you. Kindness is one of the most important things we can teach and model for our students, especially those who may not be treated with kindness outside of school. And being kind to ourselves is necessary! You can't take care of students if you don't take care of yourself.